I never really took MMA as a self-defense outlet; you see I grew up with two brothers so I always knew how to throw a punch. However, I see so many women who live worried about not being able to defend themselves or been attacked my larger opponents in real life. Recently one of my awesome readers reached out to me about self-defense and what would be our best moves as women in an attack or rape situation; she was told about armbars, which are strolling the internet as one as the most famous jiu-jitsu/judo moves, but as a women in a danger situation such as that, would it be our #1 easiest go-to move?
First and for most, REMEMBER NEVER TO EXPOSE YOURSELF, regardless of your training, if you see an opening run and don’t try to be a she-hero. Your safety is the most important factor on the outcome of a live danger situation… Second, there are a lot of things to consider in such a situation rather than your comfy MMA gym, the attacker is someone violent, that may be armed and we don’t really know where this may lead; avoid fist fights or exposing yourself to counter attacks, if hitting is A MUST, go for the genitals (seriously), if its inevitable kick or punch the balls of the attacker, this would give you seconds to run away. And obviously always use common sense; don’t go out alone at night or into dangerous neighborhoods, even people with years of MMA experience know that its best to be careful and avoid a confrontation than to have to use your skills in the streets.
HAVING SAID THAT lets jump into subject. The techniques that you will mostly use in a violent-rape situation are as follows:
An armbar is great and easy if you start from a top position, if you’re in a bottom position it could be done as well but in my personal opinion if I was being attacked I’m not sure it would be my first option because the best outcome of an armbar is a broken or dislocated arm and that may not stop a guy on some scenarios. Yet, it might be useful to stop bullies or even a girl opponent; I leave it to your consideration.
Say we start as at close guard position you being on the bottom, as if you were being attacked, you would have to struggle to secure the arm and pass your leg over the head to achieve the position, if struggling with someone stronger, it will be difficult to achieve.
An arm drag may help you get out of the under position but then you would still have to reposition your self for the armbar.
THE TRIANGLE /TRIANGLE CHOKE.
This would be my GO TO technique speaking about a violent-rape situation. Starting in the same guard position. Lets say your opponent is on top trying to strangle you (as in the first image shows), you breath and you take control, firstly closing your guard (image 2) locking your legs with your ankles. Now, you would think this is an uncomfortable position as a girl, and it is, but this will help you get out of that situation.
Next, you only have to take one of your legs over your attackers shoulder and lock your anckles again, yes this is a more uncomfortable position yet, it would most likely be allowed by your attacker if his intentions are to rape you as it is easier to achieve from such position. Always pull his face downward to avoid him hitting you in the face.
Once your Ankles are lock it’s important to take hold of the arm of your oponent oposite to the shoulder where your leg is over (if your leg is on top of his right shoulder you are going to take his left arm and pull it to his right side). As the second and third image below shows.
Once you have reached this position you are going to take hold of your ankle and lock it underneath your oposit legs knee, its gonna be a tight squeeze so you can move your hips to the side for you to reach that small space under your knee.
Once you have closed your triangle you are only going to squeeze with all your might, pulling your locked leg down and holding with both your hands his head towards your belly, this will finally put your opponent to sleep which will help you escape. Make sure once he is OUT you hold the triangle for 3-5 additional seconds so that he doesn’t wake up immediately and give you time to escape.
WHY IS JIU-JITSU A MORE REALISTIC SELF-DEFENSE OUTLET THAN OTHER MARTIAL ARTS?
As a girl it is unlikely you will K.O. your opponent with one punch, most of the times the fights go to the ground, especially if it’s someone bigger than you. The benefits of jiu-jitsu are not only that you can learn to control a larger heavier opponent than you, but that you can easily start from a bottom position and escape, submit or put your opponent to sleep.
Last but not least, BE CAREFUL, don’t allow yourself to become a victim, TRAINN YOUR CARDIO, if you are not to make jiu-jitsu of a regular activity at least make sure you are strong enough to pull off the techniques in this post and remember; in dangerous situation, the most important outcome is your wellbeing.
Thanks to all the girl readers out there who are taking a step into jiu-jitsu, especially to my friend Chloe; it’s because of you that I write this blog.