We wont lie, single Girls who practice BJJ love to think that they will find their Jujiteiro love, We’ve talked about it in a group, even though we like to keep face and pretend to be just one more of the guys, tough and all.
Now and then when we all get to gether and girl out, we talk about life, jiujitsu, being a tomboy and ofcourse boys. Its one thing to talk the talk, but do we realy want to be hit on in the mat?
1. It may be ocured.
Everybody can tell which girls mean busines and which ones are just there because hubby has trained there for a long while. Its hard to find girls that come in on their own to have a taste of the mat and stay on their own. The girls that are there for their training often dont think of their rolling partners as dateable, but you can always try your luck.
2. Slowly but surely.
I’ve asked around and most girls find it off putting when guys come on to strong, the mat is where they feel the toughest, like they are one of the guys and always remember that your gym is very small, they will know if your single, married, in a relationship, everything!
3. Remember, she can tap you out.
Most BJJ girls see dating a jujiteiro as an advantage for their game as well, ofcoure its awesome to share that with a special someone, but they also know that a BJJ boy will help them stay motivated and help them grow in the sport as well. That doesnt mean she will roll easy with you. Dont underestimare rolling with her, she wont play dumb to let you win.
4. Take advantage of the common ground, jiujitsu.
Go to tournaments together, seminars or open mats. Imercing in the sport will allow you to talk about a common interest and lead to knowing each other better.
5. Think about the pros and cons, or make a list if hessitant.
-Someone to share BJJ stuff with.
-Someone who understands what you do.
-Having someone to support you during tournaments and weight cuts.
-What if you have a nasty break up?
-Everybody might be up in your business.
-No body wants to be the bad jujiteiro of the couple.
-Loosing your individuality. (You dont want to be known as Holy’s Boyfriend.)
6. If you’re the jelous type, this may not be for you.
Remember that she roll’s all her rounds with hot, sweaty guys. She’s done this boyfriendles all this time, so dont try to change that, most girls will probably wont go for that behavior. These girls want support not restrictions
7. Don’t kiss and tell.
8. Dates are a little different.
She might be more of the acai and salad type of girl if shes serious about competing, theres also not a lot of drinkers, or smokers. If they are serious about their game, their training schedules are tighter and bussier. So instead of the typical stake house or italian restaurant, it may be more of a salad bar or outdoorsy kind of date.
9. Jujiteiras are confident women.
Most of the BJJ girls I know are super confident women, independent, powerful girl’s and lets face it, not all guys go for the loud voice women type, if they don’t like what you offer they will tell you, most of them don’t fool around, but that doesn’t mean they are not fun.
10. Bottom line.
It takes a lot of balls to choke out a guy, they dont expect to be treated differently during training, they dont want to be pointed out for being girls and most of them juggle work, school or/and a family on the side. These are hard training women and they know it. Most of the girls in gi I know are quite some bad asses.